tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6194871411353554774.post1451212082968970816..comments2023-11-05T01:34:01.603-06:00Comments on Anita's Blog: Stepmomamcnewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06019651590010670057noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6194871411353554774.post-65307018393447502212008-06-05T23:06:00.000-05:002008-06-05T23:06:00.000-05:00Why is it ok? Why shouldn't your husband love you...Why is it ok? Why shouldn't your husband love you first, or at least love you equally? Why shouldn't your husband stick up for you when the kids treat you like crap no matter what good you do? Are you just an unpaid maid and emotional punching bag? Please tell me how this is all right, just because others came first? You do all the nurturing and when you really need them they are only there if a child's whim - not a true need - does not conflict. The kids seem to enjoy asserting their position and deciding when a stepmom can have attention, love or some material trinket, which usually is never as all things and feelings must go to them first. Is this even good for them? That is not the way the world works, such behavior is not sustainable in the workpplace for instance. And as far as compassion, and world peace goes it seems to teach children to be selfish and feel entitled to everything. I feel bad and like a selfish person if I dare create boundaries or assert that I have needs too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com